1st Connect then Correct
We must connect with our children. How do we do this? By spending time with them. Parents must be the most selfless people on the face of the earth. (The balance must be met. While being selfless the parent must take time for themselves.) We have a daughter that we adopted. She was neglected when she was a baby and has RAD – reactive attactment disorder. She has a really difficult time attaching to anyone. Because of that she presses beyond her boundaries. In essence her conscience is seared. My young 5 year old son (also adopted) was getting into trouble at school. It was a warning sign to me to 1st connect with him. I did connect with him by spending time with him and now I don’t have to correct him. He’s much better.
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wow… I posted a comment on someone elses site about being a servant to our children so they can learn the princples of servanthood. I struggle with this every day… So many times I want to do my own thing and lately I am reminded… how am I showing the love of Christ? How am I showing my children that…..Jesus was a servant to people himself? Being a servant shows how much we love Jesus and how much we love our children.
I believe it with your children. I am so sorry to hear they struggle with attachtment disorder. I had a rough childhood growing up and couldn’t be attatched to anyone either. Just now, being married to my husband for over 6 years …am I learning to be attached to him and my children. It takes a long time to recover from.
Blessings and feel welcome to drop by my site anytime.
This is something I wish parents understood better. What there kid’s really want from them is time. As a children’s pastor I can only do so much and what I really hope parents understand is that they are the best person to really make a difference in their children’s life.