He would be 28. He would probally have a family and children. Yet he’s not here and they are not here. Why? Because I and my wife made a decision to erase him off this earth. His name is RJ and I do think of him often with feelings of emptiness. I’ve been forgiven by my creator but it doesn’t erase the act. My wife has been forgiven of the “procedure” but it doesn’t erase the pain – only he was erased. My older daughter has lived under the shadow of, “I wasn’t the oldest, yet I lived in that position.” Someone’s husband was erased. Someone’s older brother was erased. My son was erased. He was aborted.
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I grieve with you… but also rejoice that you have found forgiveness in our Creator/Redeemer. May your story help others in that position to make the right choice.
I am totally against abortion….I’m sorry for your grieving…….. people don’t understand that an abortion is the same as some one dying……you grieve forever.
Thank you so much for your prayers! I love you bro!=]
Thank you for sharing this with us. And I thank God for your repentance and His blood that cleanses us from all of our unrighteousness. This is a testimony of God’s forgiveness and will help others not to make the same mistake. No, we never forget but the love of God’s covers us. Your son is in the arms of the Lord now, maybe not in his arms as he would have grown up in heaven now. His is assisting in the preparations for our homegoings, he’s waiting for you, praise God! Thank you for sharing this and the love of God will continue to cover you in your times of mourning.
RYC, I heard a few years ago about a red heifer being born in Israel, but I haven’t heard anymore since then. Was this news as of here lately?
Abortion : does not forgive.
The laws trying to be placed : Do not forgive people who have been raped, or incest….
I just randomly came accross your page, and I’m interested in hearing your complete views… ?
you asked me my opinion on abortion, here it is. While I come from South Dakota and I grieve for your loss even though it was your own choice. I am for the right to chose, my state is trying to make laws to abolish abortion and that is telling people how to think. I believe in freedom of thought so therefor I believe in the right to choose.
As for the post above mine, I will never believe that we have the right to choose to kill someone, pure and simple. May God have mercy on our nation for those who think it is ok to kill, especially an innocent baby in the womb.
Hi, You asked me for my thought on abortion. I am strongly against it and being a fellow South Dakotan I definitley support Amendment 6. The other night at our youth group we watched a video from people who went and found parts of aborted babies in the garbages of abortion clinics-I don’t think I’ve ever had a sick feeling in my stomach like the one I had that night. Our Youth Pastor read to us Proverbs 14:12 and Psalm 139:13-16. Great verses that definitely show the right side of this huge issue.
As to the person above me. Keep in mind, not everyone is christian. and to the person above that, a fetus isnt a life untill about the second month, it cant feel pain until then. Now to the original poster(s) I certainly sympathise with you but it was your choice, you made it so please dont go moping around “awww I aborted a fetus 28 years ago” and pulling inocent South Dakotans who maybe dont want to talk about this kind of thing in to *gasp* talk about it. In short, it was 28 years ago, let it go already! Now I know Im going to get flamed for this but I dont care, Amendment 6 is an abomination. How dare Governor “I think everyone should think exactaly as I do” Rounds challenge the decision put forth by the supreme court in Roe V Wade? I am ashamed to have him as my governor. Thats all I have to say for now, and I guarentee if someone drags me into this political bullshit one more time there will be hell to pay and the comment will be too long to read in one sitting
No problem, Randy! I’m glad you like my site. My views on nature may be different from your own, but that’s okay with me. As for your aborted zygote, I’m very sorry that you are haunted by the memory of what might have been. I also have witnessed the erasure of a future in the form of the divorce I’m undergoing right now — I deeply loved my wife and thought we had a whole lifetime of happiness ahead. I know what I will say will probably not help you because, being Christian, you feel that all lives are predestined. You need to be at peace with yourself. You say you’ve been forgiven by God, but you need to be able to forgive yourself, or rather understand that you didn’t do anything wrong to begin with. I don’t mean to upset you or anyone by saying that, but if you weren’t ready to have a child, emotionally or financially, then bringing a child into the world would be cruel for the child because they would grow up without the best parenting you would one day be able to provide. You did exactly what you needed to do. Think of it this way: I’m agnostic, but if there is a God, then He created everything, all matter, and according to every religion, He did so knowing the exact path that all matter in the universe would inevitably take as particles interacted with each other. This in turn means that there is no such thing as evil as a different entity from good because all was created by one and all was created with divine foreknowledge. Under this paradigm, there is only free will to the extent that the choices we make are inevitable ones based upon the complex interactions of our biochemicals with the chemicals in the environment set forward in a pattern that God created. In that case, the abortion was predestined. Some religious people say, “We aren’t always meant to know God’s will,” which often times seems like an answer that allows a person to not do any investigation or assign any blame or free will in humans. However, whether there is a God or not, simple physics and chemistry shows us that events happen as a chain of reactions as particles interact with one another in an inevitable fashion, and understanding the fractal geometry of these interactions could provide us with a picture of how the universe functions on four dimensions, that is including time. You would be able to determine, based on physical and chemical pathways of all matter, what a given person decides to have for breakfast in 100 years. I’m an advocate of free will, but this hypothesis, which tends toward agreement with the paradigm of religions, indicates that free will exists only to the extend that the result is inevitable, if not preordained.
Hello,
Yes I do have a thought on abortion. I believe that abortion is the murder of an unborn baby, a creation of God put into this world for a reason, and taken out before he/she ever has a chance to know the parents who conceived them or the God that loves and created them.
Thanks for asking…I wish more people would…
God bless
I think abortion should only happen if giving birth interferes with the mother’s health.
if i may express a bit of anger here! i have had four chidlren of mine die because my ex husband beat the hell out of me so that way i cannot have children and forgive me here but people that are willing to kill thier children for slefish reasons really really bothers me. yes thank god for grace!
Hey Randy,
I saw your question on captivesetfree’s blog, and I wanted to respond. Honestly, I think I expected someone younger to have posed that question, but actually a couple years ago our church (Nazarene) had a guy attend for many weeks who periodically came to church cross-dressed. I am VERY thankful to say that people loved him and accepted him anyway. (Of course he was not a serious candidate lay leadership, but that’s a whole other matter.) He considered us “his” church until his death. Unfortunately, he was jailed for a short time and died in the county jail. I think he may have been attacked and abused by other another prisoner. . . . Your personal story makes me sad, but I too am thankful for God’s grace! Many of us have things in our lives that are too sad to bear, without God’s grace. Feel free to stop by my site any time. . . . Oh, and it looks like we’re almost exactly the same age. I was born June 20, ’59.
Blessings, — John
You’ve asked me my thoughts on abortion, and before I respond, just wanted to say that it’s encouraging to see that you’re not only a Christian but a pastor as well. Keep up your ministry, it’s touching lives whether you see the fruit or not. I’m pro-life, definitely pro-life. I was adopted as a baby, so in my opinion, if a person cannot support the child they’ve created, please give the child up for adoption. There are so many sterile parents in this world that would be elated to adopt any child and who are praying for a child to adopt.
To the person who commented above that “a fetus isnt a life untill about the second month, it cant feel pain until then”, what makes you think that feeling pain is an indication that you aren’t human? Pardon me? What about the paraplegic who cannot feel pain in their limbs, should we kill them? Just because a baby is hidden and unseen in the womb to our naked human eye, the ultrasound records their living quality very explicity. You would have to be utterly selfish and blind to insist that a baby is not human until it can feel pain.
I think it’s really disgusting when people refer to people that has abortions as cruel, heartless baby killers. I don’t think those people understand the extent of grief and regret that a mother or couple may go through after terminating a pregnancy. I definitely sympathize with your situation and hope that after knowing God has forgiven you that you have forgiven yourselves. I’m pro-choice because I know not all people believe a fetus or embyro is human until a certain point in pregnancy (when it is viable) or until birth, and though I don’t necessarily agree, I think they should be free to make their own choice.
Pardon me if I am a bit too much in your faces about this. ”Not all people” believe it is wrong to blow up buildings or shoot teenagers in the classroom, but should they be the choice? I mean, where do you draw the line? Murder is murder, and I’m sorry if this offends you but killing a human being is not a choice we should be given. According to your belief, abortion is something God must forgive. If God regards this act as wrong, ie murder, should we continue to allow it? Is this not an affont and offense to our Creator? How long will He suffer to see these precious souls He has created snuffed out…..FOR ANY REASON (except perhaps in the case the pregnancy threatens to end the life of the mother.) Sure it is difficult and seemingly impossible to see a pregnancy through when it is not ‘convenient’, but as already mentioned, many couples are pleading for the chance to have an adopted baby, so why not give the gift of life if you cannot keep the baby. It would even PAY you in money, for crying out loud!
Well I’ve had my say,……those of you who understand what’s at stake in the pivotal state of Sth Dakota, I invite you to PRAY PRAY PRAY like never before and ask your friends and neighbors to offer assistance in whatever way they can, because as Sth Dakota goes, other states will follow whose decision will impact our children, our grandchildren, and nation for many years to come.