February 24, 2010
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One Way Conversations
I normally don’t like one way conversations. People that keep talking and won’t allow a response from anyone, is very annoying & tiring. You know the people. They’ve been stuck at home and you’re the 1st adult they’ve seen in a long time and they still have their allotement of 10,000 words. They proceed to give you the full allotement without any concern of whether you want it or not. There are times when I want to learn and I will listen to a person in a one way conversation.
What do you do when someone dominates a conversation?
There have been times I’ve grabbed my cell phone and acted like someone was on it just to get the person to stop.
Some times I listen, yelling “shut up” in my mind.
Now the cell phone thing doesn’t work when the person is giving you the full 10,000 words called you your cell phone. (Sometimes I wish I didn’t have such good reception. -lol)
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Well, of course, the first thing is that you will become a good listener. What I’ve learned is to become a good selective listener. Listen in for a bit, then daydream then listen again…. just so if they ask a question, you can confirm what they’re saying (for that part) and then repeat. It works quite well, since I use it alot. Just make sure it doesn’t become a habit with anyone. Hahaha.
I’ll zone out, too. Later, someone will say something and I’ll reply, “I didn’t know that”. They’ll come back with “Well, I told you on such and such occation”.
Mornin Glorie…did you see the movie rainman? When Ray and Charlie Babitt were in the doctor’s office, there’s a man in the background just rattling on about history (I think) - I get those background people all the time – drives me nuts! I think that many have just become too self centered to be able to carry on a normal two way conversation – if it’s not about them then who cares? So yes – I’ve learned the zone out tecnique too….