Kelly Patterson is a Counselor and a Pastor for Restored Life Outreach in Rapid City. She specializes in working with victims of sexual abuse/assault.
Much publicity has been given to the idea that rape/incest victims need and want abortion. From my experience, this is simply not true. In fact, most victims of rape/incest do not agree with abortion.
As many politicians and organizations have presumed to speak for the victims of rape/incest, I wish to address this issue from a very personal perspective, both as a sexual abuse counselor and as a victim of rape. I know and understand the devastation of this crime of violence against the innocent victims. As a rape survivor, I abhor violence against any innocent human being. And who is more innocent than the unborn baby?
I have worked with hundreds of victims of rape/incest. Of the women I know that conceived in their abuse, all have reported that the child was the one beautiful thing that came from such an ugly experience and actually helped in their healing process. For the incest victims, the pregnancy was the thing that finally exposed what was being done to them in their homes.
The issue of abortion comes up frequently in counseling, not because the client became pregnant from rape/incest, but because they have had abortions at other times in their life. Almost without exception, these women hold to the belief that the abortion hurt them much more than the abuse ever did.
The trauma from the abuse and the trauma from abortion are so similar. They experience the same nightmares, shock, hyper-vigilance, depression, etc. As one who has experienced post-traumatic stress after rape, I would never promote a procedure that has such a high rate of trauma after the event. To suggest abortion to someone who has just been the victim of a violent crime becomes a short-sighted solution. Promoting an abortion at this time, knowing that it will most likely compound her pain and prolong her healing, is simply wrong.
Also, statistically, only about 1% of abortions are from rape/incest. Of that 1%, many of those cases are statutory rape reported by young women under 17 who have consented to sex. Therefore, the actual abortions from forced rape/incest are far less than 1%.
There have been some attempts to make abortion an issue of equal rights. I absolutely believe in the equality between the sexes. If we indeed believe this, then we must look at the facts. For every abortion, there is a father somewhere. Since over 99% of these abortions come from consensual sex, then there is a male who should legitimately be included in this process. For those men who objectify women, abortion provides an easy way out of responsibility for their present actions and for any future actions.
I have counseled many post-abortive fathers and grandparents who are equally devastated. Though they undergo a very real sorrow, they are generally unrecognized in the grieving process. Often, they don’t know where to turn with their pain.
We are creating an epidemic in our country with post-abortive trauma. As with any traumatic experience, the pain of abortion needs to be dealt with in the open. While there has been some recognition of post-abortive trauma, it is generally minimized. It is time society acknowledges this detrimental aspect of the abortion issue.
There has also been the misrepresentation that there is no provision for a woman’s life that is in danger. Quoting from the sample ballot in South Dakota, it states that it would not prohibit "a licensed physician from performing a medical procedure to prevent the death of the pregnant woman”.
Therefore, with the passage of Referred Law 6, the woman’s life who is in danger is protected; the rape/incest victim is protected from further trauma; and the unborn baby is protected. I urge you, please vote YES on Referred Law 6!