January 10, 2007
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I feel like I know some of you much better. Reading the entries concerning personalities was like going into a candy store and seeing all the varieties. It’s all good. I like Gary Chapman’s book – The five love languages. Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, & Acts of Service. Gary says that everyone interprets love in one of these 5 ways. I know my love language is quality time. I’m not a huggy, compliment giving, give me something or do something for me type of person. Give me your undivided attention and I’ll interpret you love me – type of person. My wife on the other hand is a Acts of Service personality. If I do things for her she knows I love her.
What love language fits you?
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Mine is between words of affirmation and acts of service. I love it when people do stuff for me, but I also love it when someone just says that they care. My wife is probably more of the quality
As I was saying, my wife is probably more of the quality time type gal. She just loves to sit and talk and have your undivided attention!
I was told by my hubby that I expect out of pple to much(want pple to be like me) which is very true cause if I give 100% darn well you going do ur share or else I don’t associate with you anymore. I’m a giver always but if you alway take from me all the time then forget you.
Hmmm…I haven’t read the book, but I would say Quality time and words of affrimation.
In all honesty, I think I am all five varieties but not from the perspective you have directed. I am not so much on the receiving end as I am on the “giving” end. I get a “kick” out of serving. I didn’t use to in my youth, however, “life” taught me how to give with a full heart as I grew in “age and wisdom.” There is nothing more rewarding as to see a face glow with appreciation and happiness in the moment (or longer.) Nothing! I’ve come to understand that the more anyone can “empty” themselves, the more “full” they become. It is a surrender replete with a very certain satisfaction. Ergo, “gratitude” is an ”attitude” and when I treat people with Touch (physical or emotional), giving them the Quality Time to Listen, and Affirm them, and treat them Kindly, most of them have felt “Gifted” with my listening heart (or counsel). I have learned on my life’s walk that by “giving and serving” personally fills me up more than the “receiver.” (It isn’t always that way, just most of the time.)
I know I’m diffinently a Quality Time kind of love language. I’m Physical only to a point. Too much can get on my nerves. The Words of Affirmenation thing sorta just goes over my head when it comes to: your so beautiful and things like that b/c I’m thinking your just saying that b/c you really love me(which is good). A normal woman aways thinks she has some kind of imperfections and doesn’t believe that kind of talk. As far as the gifts…I’m like please don’t. They are nice but you didn’t have to. I’m grateful for them, but it doesn’t make me feel all tingley. And I don’t care for roses or teddy bears. Just take me out to a dinner and movie. I love the time spent. As for the Acts of Service. It’s about the same as gifts. I’m grateful but you didn’t have to. It is reassurance though.
Wow, you know I didn’t know there were 5 types of love.
I enjoyed this blog.
Lacey
I like to be affirmed,I do things for others to express love.
Great book! I think I show love most through meaningful gifts (it might be genetic!) and acts of service. I can feel loved through any of them, though physical touch and genuine, thoughtful words of affirmation fill up my tank pretty well.
My husband and I have read through that and did the activities. I am Acts of Service and he turned out to be Words of Affirmation.
i interpret love through words of affirmation, i show love thru acts of kindness
Oh I’ve read this book before… I think my love languages are in this order: 1. Quality Time, 2. Words of Affirmation, 3. Physical Touch, 4. Acts of Service, and 5. Gifts.
Thanks Randy for the kind words! Love your comments and the posts. Blessings! BR
Words of affirmation would fit me because I love to encourage people right where they are. It doesn’t matter to me wherether they are a believer or not because if you can tap into a persons belief system you can encourage them to dissect their beliefs as to whether they are good or bad. Everybody has a BS. Communication is the key to witnessing the Gospel of Christ and if people are loved and respected they allow us to understand them and why they believe what they believe. I know you didn’t ask all of that but….anywho. That was a good question.