April 22, 2009
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Living Together vr Marriage
I was listening to a young lady as she told me her life story. She allowed this guy to move in with her and her kids. She told me that at first he gave her a lot of attention but now he doesn’t. She was wanting to know what she did wrong. I asked her a question: What’s the difference between living together and marriage. Her answer was this: “I would rather lease a vehicle before I purchase it, just to make sure it’s the car I really want.” I thought about her answer and realized that is the way this generation thinks. -The “Wall Mart” generation - They approach life, “to get something.” They go to church when they want to “get something”. Has consumerism been pounded in us so strongly that we think like it, in every area of our life? Has consumerism/democracy become our nation’s foundation replacing Christianity? If your answer is yes, what should we fight for?
Your thoughts?
Comments (14)
I moved in with my boyfriend because of my living situations were awful and i had no where else to go.
My thought is that if she wants to be treated like a leased car, she’s going to get her gears ground and her engine ignored.
My answer is definitely yes – and it’s heartbreaking. We’ve twisted FREEDOM to being ENTITLEMENT. It’s no longer about the privilege of free speech, or freedom of religion, or freedom to pursue your dreams…it’s more like “I get what I want and don’t you get in my way – THAT’S MY RIGHT!” Too many people have only always experienced the freedoms. They haven’t felt the pain of oppression. They haven’t had to go to war (or lose a loved one in war) to understand the cost of the freedoms we have in this country. And thank you very much ACLU for your distortion of human rights.
The evidence speaks for itself about living together and not getting married. Just google “statistics about cohabitation”. The numbers are clear. It sets you up for failure. If you truly want to test a relationship for love that will conquer anything…ask your BF/GF to to cherish you and refrain from a sexual relationship until you’re married. Focus on getting to know each other’s character, personality, preferences, dreams, goals… Then you’ll find out if he/she really truly cares for YOU and the person you are…or if they’re just wrapped up in the sexual attraction and chemistry. That young lady is now feeling ignored, because for him, the mystery is gone. He’s got everything that there is to get. I’m not saying that premarital sex automatically means that person doesn’t love you…it’s a strong temptation when you love someone and want to be closer. But I am saying that purity is a much greater test of whether your marriage will succeed than “leasing” a relationship. The facts support it.
It’s never too late for a new beginning!
Living together is against my parents rules and regulations. Marriage is against my rulez.
@Annette Roux -
I salute you for your points.
when she asked what she did wrong..you missed the perfect opportunity to say “moved in before marriage”…
@SwordAndSacrifice - perfect analogy…people don’t treat leased cars with near the care as when they buy…leased cars are sold later so cheap because they are so…used up…and living together with someone is nothing at all the same as marriage, so saying it helps you decide is crap speak…
A friend of mine wrote a great book recently, “America’s Deadliest Enemy” (Robert W. Wheeler, Pleasant Word) saying Consumerism HAS replaced Christianity in America!!! I agree with you 100%!!!!
I would see what she really wants and if this talk about trying it out like a car is really what her heart is telling her or is it what the guy is telling her?
She has gone through some hard times if she has children and no husband.
I would let her know what I feel is the christian way and then spend time with her and slowly find out what is under that tough exterior.
The ‘try before you buy’ approach was around in my generation, too.
It messed up my life and the life of many around me whom I loved dearly but hurt deeply.
I was trapped in the consumerism of self and did not escape until I knew the love of God and His grace in Christ.
I would share that truth with anyone who asked ‘what did I do wrong?’ hoping my mistakes might shed light on their own.
We should fight for truth! Self fulfilling consumerism is a lie.
I did live with my husband before we were married, I am not sure I would repeat living with him before marriage but I for sure would repeat saying I do…he is the best…
I have a dear friend that has lived with his lady for years they would love to get married but if they marry she will loose her late husbands retirement also part of the S.S. she receives monthly…if they loose that part of their income she would most likely loose her house also…so laws need to be changed to protect spouses…
@tialoca_talks - Nope – didn’t miss that – just didn’t put that in my blog because it wasn’t the point I was making. My point was consumerism – Any thoughts on my question?
@clintspirations - Thanks – With all the effort you’re putting in to presenting the truth about this present Administration, I value your opinion.
@SisterMom1954 - I have seen other laws that do not promote family. That’s too bad. Thanks for your comment.
I agree. There is a mindset change that happened as well as a brain washing effect due to seeing this stuff all over. We get numb to it and start to think it’s right. Look at tv for instance… does it surprise you any more to unmarried people living together?