May 18, 2011
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Likeability
I’m reading this book called Relational Intellegence. Actually it’s a book in our book club. The chapter I’m reading right now is called “likeability”. I’m having some difficulty with it. It’s encouraging everyone to be likeable. The suggestions the author makes are so not my personallity. It almost seems like a popularity contest. The things that are important to me are not important enough to the author to put in his list. Being on time, not self seeking, not self advertising, humble, and using good grammer are a few things that I feel make people likeable.
What do you find “likeable” in other people?
Psalms 21:1
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Intelligence
Education
Kindness
Humor
Patience
Not too loud
Playful
Tolerant
Open minded
Adventurous
I could go on and on. lol
I’m not much of a “people person” — I chose my screen name for a reason — but on those exceptionally rare occasions when I do find myself liking someone, it’s usually because the person is highly intelligent and well-read, capable of conversing on a wide variety of subjects. Having shared interests is also a big factor.
What do I find likeable in a person ? Someone who is real. Not putting up a front to impress. I like the take it or leave it kind of person. At least that way you no who you are dealing with and there are no hidden agendas.
This morning? Not much!!
People I find likeable:
* people who work hard at what they need to or what they’re passionate about
* people who are smart
* people who are generous with their time and talents when they can be
* people who have a kind and smart wit (much distinguishable from an unintelligent insipid jersey shore sense of humor)
* people that are self-assured
* people that are happy
That’s not an exhaustive list, but it’s a good start.
@The_Eyes_Of_A_Painter - What this guy said. Foremost. Then intelligence. That’s right; I’m putting authenticity before the trait of intelligence, because intelligence can be exhibited in so many awful/unlikable ways. If one can demonstrate one’s intelligence in a forthright, honest manner without agenda, that’s pretty great.
@scruffylizard - We are of like minds. Thank you…
Kind-hearted
Aware
Funny
Loyal
Caring
One can not simply be likable. No one can control wither others like you.
I find that likeability for me is the absence of drama from the other person.do they have to agree with me, no, do they have to give me things, no but just be real without the drama and I will probably like you….I do like you Randy! I appreciate your friendship online here for these years!! Thanks for your comments too!
There are always going to be those who do not like me and others I may not like. I’m a push over though, if someone likes me I usually like them in turn. Kind of a cause and affect thing…(or is that cause and “effect”?) Kind hearted people who have a sweet sense of humor makes me really like them. Great topic!
@C_L_O_G - thanks thanks thanks thanks thanks -lol
@TheSchizoidMan - Thank you
@Kowpatty - LOL – well hopefully the rest of the day goes better.
@scruffylizard - I like that
@WondersCafe - Good point
It’s even hard for me to think about what I like about other people, simply because it’s so easy for me to dislike things people do. Maybe that’s just my tendency towards negativity, but we all like different things in people. For me, it takes much more than kindness to win me over, for long-term. If strangers are nice to me, I remember, but if I am getting to know someone, it takes more effort to win me over. I think actions are the biggest thing for me, not just qualities or personality of someone.
I usually like people who are polite, humble, kinda quiet, and friendly. And I totally agree with you about the good grammar; I know that might be a little superficial of me, but it’s so much easier to take people seriously when they give a crap about how they type.
Humor, of course!
No one can be likable all of the time but the trait I find likablke in people is acceptance of others.
Curiosity about the world (intelligence and education are a bonus)
Desire for self-improvement
Desire for world-improvement
Ability to see the needs of others
Willingness to meet (or facilitate the meeting of) the needs of others
Willingness to live out religious beliefs consistently (even ones I disagree with)
Willingness to wrestle with abstract ideas
Politeness
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In no particular order although I do think number one is a VERY likable trait, Humor, a good listener, good hygiene ( I mean really, if you smell or are gross forget it, I don’t care how funny you are). Considerate, intelligent ( can’t have a good sense of humor if you’re dumb), Grey people ( don’t see things in black and white),someone who is genuine and easy to be around.
@momofjenmatt - Thanks – It’s rare today to find a good listener.
@YourOuterCritic - wrestle with abstract ideas – now that’s interesting.
@tymedancer - thanks
@Justin_DeBin - You have to be joking -lol
@soullightsky - So true
@makesenseofmadness - I have that type of personality also. I have to work hard to stay positive.
@Randy7777 - That’s usually a safe bet with me!