June 2, 2011
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Pretending
I read on (SentimentalDoll) site: “I hate pretending I’m okay when it’s so obvious I’m not.”
I personally try to be positive and so I find myself pretending I’m okay.
Do you pretend to be okay when you’re not?
Is is OK to pretend to be okay?Family
If today I was an emotion I would be _______________________. Why?
Word of the Day – ruminate
I can’t help but ruminate about the Missouri River, in that it’s about to flood Yankton and down stream cities and towns.
Psalms 22:25-28
Family Feud Question: What is your favorite piece of furniture?
Comments (26)
Doesn’t everyone pretend they are ok when they are not around people they don’t know well. It is only among people who love and accept us that we can be ‘really real’… It takes much energy to pretend I’m ok when I’m not.
The flooding of the MO River is heading our way and we are trying to prepare for it.
If today I was an emotion, I would be contentment..Because? I am grateful for what I do have and am trying not to remember what I do not have.
My favorite piece of furniture? My mother-in-law’s old rocker which is more than 90 y/o.
Have a great day, Randy!
Christy
I always pretend to be okay when I’m not. I hate breaking down in front of people.
As for today’s emotion, I’d say determined. There’s a lot I need to do today.
My favorite piece of furniture is my warm, snuggly bed, especially with the fleece sheets on. :3
@prettynpink628 - Thanks – I wonder if everyone pretends at some point.
@greatredwoman - We are already at record levels for Gavins Point Dam and the plan is to double that. The problem is that it is still raining and snowing in Montana. It doesn’t look good here. What state are you from? Are you close to the Missiouri River?
Pretend You’re Happy When You’re Blue
recorded by Brenda Lee
written by Lew Douglas, Cliff Parman, Frank LaVere
and Dan Belloc
Pretend you’re happy when you’re blue
It isn’t very hard to do
And you’ll find happiness without an end
Whenever you pretend
Remember anyone can dream
And nothing’s bad as it may seem
The little things you haven’t got
Could be a lot if you’d pretend
You’ll find a love you can share
One you can call all your own
Just close your eyes he’ll be there
You’ll never be alone
And if you’ll sing this melody
You’ll be pretending just like me
The world is mine it can be yours my friend
So why don’t you pretend
@vexations - That’s good – We then are all actors upon the world’s stage.
I do because I’m a mom. Things have to get done and the whole household can’t be in an uproar because I’m upset over something. Now when the proper time or opportunity presents itself, I’m not one for holding back.
@Pepin909 - That’s a great way to do it. -thanks
We all have our down days. Important to remain as best as possible, even through those trying times, positive. If thats part of pretending, so be it.
@The_Eyes_Of_A_Painter - I positivly agree.
I can pretend I’m not OK when I really am OK even though I’m not pretending not to be OK but people just assume I’m not.
At some point I heard something along the lines of:” if you pretend something long enough you’ll find it to have come true.” And when I’m not feeling like I’m ok I find myself thinking about what is ok in my life and so I think back to myself that yes, I am ok still. Does that count as pretending? I’m not sure. Just being my evasive self, I suppose. =)
And I would be calmness. What about you?
It just depends with me. When I’m pissed, I tend to NOT pretend I’m okay, hahah. When I’m sad, sometimes I pretend to be okay, because I don’t want to make people feel bad over that.
If I was an emotion today, I would be… oh geeze I don’t even know a way to describe it. Squishy???
DD
@soullightsky – thanks
I do pretend to be okay, when something is wrong that is nobody else’s business, and nothing can be gained from displaying it. I don’t ever lie to somebody when they’ve hurt me in some way, though. There’s no point in that.
If today I was an emotion, I would be joyful. I’m pretty happy today.
My favorite piece of furniture is my bed. It’s made by an Amish craftsman, and it’s absolutely gorgeous. My favorite pieces of furniture in general though, are book cases- when we buy Amish book cases, I’m sure those will become my favorite.
yes, I pretend to be okay when I’m not, and yes, it’s okay to do that (in my opinion).
if today I was an emotion, I would be indifferent because for some reason, I just haven’t cared that much about anything today! haha.
I think it’s okay to pretend. Just think if we all openly showed our true feelings at any given moment. I’m pretty sure that wouldn’t go over well. I once heard that you should “fake it until you make it,” meaning you should pretend you’re okay until you actually are, fake your confidence until you are confident, etc. I don’t think this works in every situation but sometimes all you need is the belief that you are okay and then you can feel a little better.
@makesenseofmadness – I have heard that saying also
@bittersweetreflections – thanks. I have days like that allso
@WaitingToShrug – glad you are having a happy day
@soullightsky – interesting emotion
Yes… I act the same in public usually, regardless of the mood I’m in lol. Because really, what can strangers do to really help if you are sad? Around my friends I don’t pretend.
I think it is better to be honest with myself, and if I am ”not okay”, I don’t deny it, but decide how I want to deal with it. After allowing myself to feel what I feel, then I can decide to act as if I am okay (yes, “fake it to make it
). I think helps to have a close empathic friend who will listen to me when I’m not “okay”. Of course, the best friend to take my ”not okayness” to is God. ~~Blessings ‘n Cheers
@DonnaLou – thanks
I used to pretend to be okay when I wasn’t, but I try not to do that anymore. I don’t like pretending to be okay when I’m not.
It’s not ok to pretend like your ok when your not, but sometimes I think I feel better to pretend like I am when I am not…