August 2, 2011
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Discipline
I’m not sure what’s happened but it seems like a lot of people, teens and kids, all got in trouble this past week. I have an emergency meeting for such today. I’ve handed out more discipline this past week than I’d like to.
Are you good at handing out discipline?
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Yes. But I feel like I’m doing the job that parents ought to be doing and I don’t like it.
When I have to be.
I never have. I think I’ve only been on the receiving end of disciplin and I’m better for it. I think knowing there’s a right and a wrong and consequences is good for young people. When they aren’t taught stuff like that they turn into little helions that the rest of the world ends up having to deal with instead.
Evidently while our 3 kidlets were home we were very good at discipline. They were well behaved and respectful to us and knew they had to answer for us if we learned of bad behavior. Once they were on their own it was their decision and their consequences for their behavior. We were far from perfect parents but we enjoyed our kids and appreciated their respect for us and still do.
I don’t like it but sometimes it has to be done.
I’m a mother of a 6 year old girl with such a strong character and some temper so i have to be good at it. I’ve learned from self experience that too much discipline is way better than no discipline. My mo says i’m a hitler at home, but i was raised by a hippie couple so i know how hard is to learn dscipline and limits on your own.
Please define discipline.
Being an adoptee with RAD and an adoptive parent at the same time, I think I discipline differently from many parents. I could liken my thinking and parenting to BCLC.
I believe there is a huge difference between discipline and punishment. There is rarely punishment in my home. Discipline is a daily thing that EVERYONE should practice. You can tell and teach your kid so many things, but there are many things that just don’t stick until they learn for themselves through experience.
I let my son learn for himself on as many things as safely possible. I also lead by example. Which is the most important part. You can’t teach a child manners or respect without using them your self, and that means directed at them. I see so many caregivers/parents being disrespectful to the children in their care it makes me sick. And the same goes for adults, and employers.
@RainDropPixie - You are so right: We must be examples. Thanks for commenting.
@hevcoh - My adopted daughter also has Reactive Attachment Disorder. I’d love to hear how you conquered that. We had to discipline her differently.
@NadiadeZ - I agree – too much discipline will hurt. Rules without relationship = rebellion.
@mcbery - That descripes my last week.
@Lucy_or_Ethel - I love hearing a successful story.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - Well I’d like to say -thank you for doing something that’s not your job.
@NightlyDreams - THanks
@Randy7777 - I love teaching math. And in order to do what I love, I have to teach How to Be a Civilized Human Being 101.
@Randy7777 - I haven’t conquered it, but I have learnt to live and function with RAD. RAD is very much a part of my life even now, and I need to analyse and modify my reactions every single time I’m in a triggering situation. The same way I try to help my own kids with their past trauma I am now much better at recognizing my own triggers and associated behaviours.
@hevcoh - Thanks – I look forward to hearing more – I do hope you post about it in the future. I think there are a lot of kids out there with this condition. I tell parents to do as much as they can for their infants.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - Math is so logical. I love it also.
@Randy7777 - I have started to write a post like that a million times. The writing of the post itself is triggering, and then generally too discouraging. My own adoption anded in dissolution, so I am not sure I can say anything positive or encouraging to parents with kids with RAD.