May 30, 2012
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Kids Today
I had a conversation with a middle school counselor yesterday. We were talking about how a more majority of kids were getting into trouble verses twenty years ago. He told me that the schools are trying to get the students to think of their future. Infant brain development are under attack from the impact of neglect, alcohol and drugs. It seems more and more children are exposed to those elements. ADD, ADHD, RAD & ODD are a few of the results. Autism is happening in children at a rate of 1 in every 60 children.
How can children of today be helped? What do they need?
Comments (9)
Love and understanding. Someone who can show care and warmth in their well being….
^ what she said.
you know what i think…..children are too cotton wooled and praised too often which i think leads them to being a bully and being over confident and having too high self esteem. not like years ago when parents were more strict and enforced rules and limits with them (im not saying this in regards to autism etc…just those horrible teens these days)
they need to have TOUGH LOVE pretty much.
when i have my baby im going to be a tough mummy and not praise them with every little thing. probably tell them to improve and do better. something along those lines
ive seen too much kids getting spoilt rotten by their parents, too much praise when not needed, and given too much packaged food (sugar junk) leading them to be overly stimulated and having some kind of behavioural problems.
@nomilktoday - You are so right! Every one can’t win at everything. Everyone has their great good points but everyone can ‘t do everything as well as someone else. Put in plenty of love and affection but tough love is the way to go with lots of encouragement thrown in.
With the break up of the family and so many children born out of wedlock I think we are headed for real trouble.
Since children are the result of adults I think that’s where any solutions begin.
@PrisonerxOfxLove - I agree and agree.
@armnatmom - Love and understanding goes a long ways.
@nomilktoday - I think you are right with the parents that just give their children things without spending time with them.(Spoiling) What I have seen is that parents are not spending time with their children. I’ve told many parents that you can’t spoil an infant. I believe in that. Children under 1 years old need as much of attention as possible. Most brain developement happens at this young age. We’ve adopted several children and have found that that first year actually shapes an entire life.
@TheSunnyC - I’m not so sure I buy into the “tough love” thing today. I’ve seen too many coaches talk like that and it’s an unfeeling, unemotional response to discipline. That will result in rebellion. But you take love and add disipline you’ll get respect. And like you said lots of encouragement. I’m just concerned not everyone has the same definition of “tough love.”